“Yes, that’s it” , ” That’s the way I am doing it”, “That’s the right thing to do right now for me”, ” I am going to go with option B”. How many of those and many other phrases like that have you told yourself to only end up with the outcome you did not expect? My guess is : numerous. There was that little voice inside you guiding you, you thought, in the right direction. The voice was loud and vivid. You thought you were making the good decision. And again, you failed somehow.
So many of us keep saying:
a) “I am so fed up with my family issues” – but it is your family in the end.
b) ” I am feeling down at my workplace”- but you are still working there with the same attitude.
c) ” He is getting on my nerves / she just does not support me at all” – but you are locked in the chain of keep saying: ” But we are so long together”.
And the list goes on and on.
I have definitely made decisions that I would have expected to lead me to the places I wanted to be and to the results I dreamt about. To my despair, I was discovering the ache of failure and disappointment countless times. Eventually, I took a closer look at the way I was approaching “the making up my mind” theme. I realised that I was overthinking it, getting confused and bringing too much chaos into it. Making decision is actually a simple task. There are always two streams that get you in that moment: Head and Heart. It is on you which one you are going to flow with. My way of decision making is brought down to three questions:
1. Will saying yes/no to this serve my highest good?
2. Am I ready to face the consequences if something does not work?
3. What will I gain if it works?
I always reckon that if a decision made benefits your life – well then that is always the right direction to go. We need to shift the way we make up our minds if something is not working.
Head or Heart are knocking on your door. Which one will you invite in? and How are you going to approach the process? Choice is yours.
Hugs and Light From Me