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Why people are leaving you and Why it is for your good

I reckon that we need to understand that everything keeps changing all the time and remember about it. Even  Me writing this post will be a bit different after completing it. I often hear others saying how hurt and disappointed they are because roads parted between them and a friend or friends or a romantic partner. And yes, it does hurt, it actually makes you super sad. I think we undergo some sort of mourning anyway, even though we tend not to admit it.  I was that person as well, blaming those who decided to leave because it did not make sense to me back then. A close friend of mine stopped answering my phone calls and emails. It was something I could not grasp so I rang and rang. Eventually, after a month of silence from her part, I gave up. It hurt as did not know what happened, I was actually very concerned about her. I also blamed myself and asked never going to be answered questions like: Did I say anything that hurt her?  And it was nine months later, in December when I got a text from her with an apology for not being in touch and asking me to talk to her if I still wanted to talk. I was so happy to hear she was ok, we spoke on the phone and it felt like we spoke just a week ago. I asked her the reason she went silent and it was all fine for a couple of months. And she disappeared again, even though I asked her to let me know if there was anything that would bother her on my part.

That time, I still sent texts and I rang and received no reply. However, there was a difference that time as I stopped contacting her within a week. I decided to let her go for whatever reason she had, it was her decision, her reasoning and I had nothing to do with it. Friendship is one of my top values in life and I was at a stage when I wanted to spend time with people who were lifting me up, quality people. I began to seek ease and flow and no drama in my friendships. I realised that she had to go in order to make room for new people in my life. I had similar situations later as well yet I already knew what was going on. I was no longer on the same vibratory length with those friends and it was ok to be this way. It did not mean they were bad or I was bad or they were ahead of me etc. It simply meant their purpose was done and it was my job to learn from them entering into my life in first place.  You see I realised that I  have grown and I learnt a couple of lessons for the future. One of them was to appreciate your friends while they are in your life and the other was: I wanted to have people around me whom I could grow with and expand.

In those moments, when someone is leaving you, you feel sad and disappointed ( even though you still have other friends and family). I definitely felt ABANDONED. I felt REJECTED.  And I was having way too many conversations in my head about all possible reasons they left. However, I want you to know that it is good for you when that friend you used to go to school leaves, that guy you were dating, simply disappears, that girlfriend you had so much in common stops answering your calls. It means you have evolved and suddenly there is a room for someone new in your life.

I am very grateful for all the agony of negative emotions I had in those moments for they taught me to move forward and led to some beautiful folks I have now in my life. 🙂

There is always something better ou there, something you can not see yet!

 

Light and Hugs from Me

 

Monika

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How I overcame the craziness of being unorganised and tired when flying home

 

First of all, I must say flying was definitely not my cup of tea. Nope. And it was not for being afraid of being up in the air. I hardly ever get scared or anxious when boarding a plane. What was driving me crazy in the past, was the fact that I totally sucked in organizing stuff for my flights home which was making me fatigue most of the times.  Looking for flights, booking the bus tickets, preparing my snacks for travel ( I used to just get some random fruit and sandwiches which I was buying in the local shop), leaving  home on time, getting the right bus ( I was a master of getting the wrong ones ie. an hour later bus which made me feel anxious whether I would manage to do the checkin on time), organizing transport from the airport and eventually getting sh.. done when I am actually at my destination. I felt frustrated. I felt angry. I felt like I was always in a hurry. Quick. Quick. You gotta hurry up Monika – I kept telling to myself . AAAHHHHH.  I kept cursing and saying: What the f..? Next time, I am definitely getting better. Next time, I will be more efficient. Eeee. No. That did not happen that rapidly. I went like that for years and then I said: NO MORE! I mean there had to be more pleasant way to deal with it. Because you see when I am going home, it is not like I am going to have there only relaxing time with my family. It also involves my dentist check ups ( Yes, I still trust my dentist since I was 12 years old),  my further family visits ( they all live minimum 1 hour drive from my home town), shopping ( I still have this crave for some Polish brands – shoes baby!) and some paperwork stuff as well.

And since I have been flying home quite often, the arrangement of stuff to do was overwhelming most of the times. Luckily, it has changed for good and I have had very peaceful and flowing time. How did I do it? I planned in advance. Yes. Nothing strange. No app needed. NO. Just pen and paper. And it works every time. It does!

What I do is creating a to do list and to be list for the voyage and time at home. You may be wondering what the to be list is. You can check my past post about it here: http://www.zesty-life.com/to-be-list-say-what/

For each day, I simply write down a mini plan with date and time and a to be list – it is simply a list of feelings I wish to experience before, during and after travelling.  I sometimes take a photo of it to have it handy on my mobile. ( Yes, I am sometimes forgetful! ) Both lists make my travels easier and hassle free and then Law of Attraction is taking care of everything as I am already in a vibration of having all sorting out for me in the best possible and smooth way. When writing that plan, I feel like I am already experiencing what I wish to experience.  🙂

Hugs and Light from Me

Monika

 

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Kinda this … kinda that .. I am kinda … etc.

The word “kinda” is just ever present in our society. We kinda do like it, kinda did it, kinda were supposed to try it and we kinda did not. KINDA. DELETE. KINDA. ERASE. KINDA. STOP. And  yes I must confess I used that word as well on way to many occasions in 2016. That “kinda” has led me to procrastination and putting off my dreams. One of my goals for 2017 is to simply get rid of it from my vocabulary and I mean stop using it entirely in my daily dialogue when it comes to my action steps. Therefore I came up with the following substitutes for KINDA:

* I pretty like what I wrote.

* I did 50% of that task.

* I tried that yet it did not work for me.

*

I intend to live life fully on my terms this year. There is no room for kinda anymore. I declare to eliminate it and do stuff and hustle my dreams require. F*** you kinda. Thank you for showing up.

 

Light and Hugs from Me

Monika 

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Alignment within

I do not know if I knew back when I was younger what alignment meant as I simply did not listen to myself, my needs, my body.

Over the years of self growth, I was discovering it, layer by layer to be eventually fully aware of its meaning.

For me, alignment comes with the internal peace, feeling fulfilled and calm, knowing that everything I do is for my highest good. I feel aligned when I listen to my intuition as this is my compass.

I think that there is magic happening when you truly listen to yourself within.

Abraham Hicks suggest a very simple tip to get into alignment:

“Alignment is easy… just remember something that feels good and focus on that”

I always focus on my nephew talking or smiling. It works for me. What will work for you to get into alignment?

Light and Hugs from Me

Monika

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Pronoia

universe

I came across that word recently and thought it was worth mentioning as the meaning appears to be positive. So I am adding that word to my vocabulary usage.

PRONOIA  is defined as “the suspicion the Universe is a conspiracy on your behalf”

Light and Hugs from Me

Monika

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Green, blue, yellow, read, pink ……… your financials in the hands of your wallet colour ?

My favourite colour is navy blue. It’s always been navy blue. I feel a strong connection to it since I was a teenager. And although I would be drawn to different colours along the years and tend to be attracted to turquoise now, navy blue is my core colour. However, when it comes to money, I have always thought red was the colour for my wallet. The reason I believed it was that red is the colour of root chakra which reflects our financials. So over the past years, I have had mainly red wallets. I even purchased a red one nearly a month ago to only discover that my presumptions about it were incorrect. And I felt a huge relief as I actually feel no joy looking at my last one. Recently, I have encountered Patricia Lohan’s website which mentioned  attracting more financial abundance by starting with my wallet. I didn’t hesitate long and I emailed my name and date of birth to Patricia. I was actually expecting the perfect color to be red. To my surprise, perfect colors for my wallet turned out to be: black, blue or green. If you wish to get to know your colour, you can check out this link:

Perfect Wallet

I am now in search for a new wallet. The one that will appeal to me. The one that every time I look at it, it will make me smile and be my magnet for wealth. I am looking forward then to welcome new energy flow around my financials. Surely, new wallet won’t magically make money show up, however I am convinced it is a very basic step to open the door to more abundance. As it is like with everything else, once we clear the stagnant energy around particular area of our lives, we make space to enhance fresh flow of new energy.

With Light and Hugs

Monika

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Five main benefits I gained from meditating every day

I have been meditating for over a year regularly. Although the beginning was quite rocky: not being able to sit still for five minutes, getting angry at myself that I can not complete that simple task, I managed to calm my mind and continued that wonderful journey of meditation. Yes, it was hard as I thought I would be able to meditate like straight away and was putting myself under the pressure of twenty minutes which I just could not accomplish. To be honest, throwing myself into twenty minutes was like swimming for five minutes with no wet suit in Galway Bay in January, with no former swimming at all. It was frustrating so I reduced the “pace” to five minutes to start with. And I can not stress enough the number of “positive side effects” I have experienced and those are my TOP FIVE:

 

ONE

I approach my days with a quiet and balanced mind. My new normal is aiming toward feeling calm and quiet the moment I wake up.

 

TWO

I feel happier. I feel content. I am stress free. It is like my mind is an empty bowl ready to be filled with the beautiful thoughts. If sometimes I wake up and already know it is not my day, mediation does its work and allows me to have the space to vent not feeling great into more pleasant feeling. For instance if I wake up feeling angry, afterwards I tend to feel resentful. Getting one step closer to feeling better.

THREE

Meditation had enhanced my  focus and attention.  It has been way easier for me to concentrate on particular tasks and things I want to do.  My mind tends to  follow its compass  to be focused on what I choose.

FOUR

My Intuition has evolved enormously.  I always listen to my heart – my inside voice which  guides me whether I am looking for an answer for a particular question or a choice I am about to make. However, due to meditation, it has doubled. I am truly amazed!

FIVE

My self – awareness has increased in a sense that I have become more present with my feelings, my strengths. I think I even became more creative. And also I made myself a priority – my self care.

Try it. Be it two or five minutes to begin. Try to make meditating your habit so it becomes indispensable part of your daily routine. Like brushing your teeth.

Light and Hugs From Me

Monika

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Leap leap leap step

Today, I am making a leap step towards having more FAITH in myself, my abilities, my potential, my can do attitude, being able to give and receive love, in being at peace, kinder, loving towards others. I am taking the big leap of trusting myself and allowing to completely embrace Who I Really AM 🙂

Hugs and Light From Me

Monika

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Getting your WHY out there part 1

I have been sitting and pondering about my life recently, my mission here on the planet Earth. And although I did figure out the purpose of my life , the query in a form of WHY keeps coming back and maybe the reason it is coming back is the fact that I am still figuring out my WHY behind it.

It is a tricky question as the BIG WHY is intricate, it has layers we need to peel. And sometimes those layers are thick and not easy to remove. Yet, it was so remarkable to me to get through them to uncover two reasons behind MY WHY so far:

Numero uno

I am here because I love seeing people ( women particularly) grow and blossom while they discover their true calling. I love being the witness of their dreams and desires coming true. It is such a fulfilling experience to be a part of their journey and be the “listener”, the “prompter”, the “facilitator” to eventually having the privilege of being the “witness”.

Numero dos

Empowerment  – yep I see an incredible power in women collaborating together, supporting one another. I feel immensely inspired by other women success stories and amazing results they are getting in their businesses and lives. I am not there yet. However, I officially left my comfort zone and I am aiming to be more empowered in getting closer to my goal and my other WHYS.

I remember when I discovered my life purpose and the feeling I had. It was just WOW – my heart was singing and I was saying: Why I did not figure it out earlier? It was within me. The answer was within me. I was carrying it out all way long.

What is the WHY behind your life mission? Have you thought about it at all? Have you listened to you deeply enough to hear the answer? I hope you will give it a shot. What is the best you can learn from it?

Hugs and Light From Me

Monika

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Here I go again… TO BE list to love yourself

So today  as I was feeling kinda under the weather, I reminded myself of the TO BE LIST and I decided to write it down. My list came a bit longer than usual and I owe it to the mood I got into. I just wanted to move into the direction of feeling happier. I got into a meditative state, sitting quietly for ten minutes and I asked myself : Who do you want to BE truly today, Monika? and here it is the list that evolved:

* KIND to myself

* LOVING to myself

* SUPPORTIVE to myself

* APPRECIATIVE of myself

* MOTIVATING to myself

* CHEERLEADING to myself

* MOTIVATING to myself

* PAMPERING myself

We all deserve joy and bliss in our lives. In order to feel them we gotta love ourselves. Truly. Madly. Deeply. Unconditionally.  What’s your TO BE list to love yourself? 🙂

Light and Hugs from Me

Monika